Lies We Believe…
I have been pondering regarding the lies we were told, or are told now, and truly affects us.
There are lies whispered into our minds, at times absorbed into our hearts through our upbringing or our culture. These lies become so deeply rooted that they begin to shape our identity, our choices, and even our sense of worth. These lies can speak louder than truth unless we learn to recognize them and return to what God the Father actually says—through His Word, His love, prayer, Mass, and every moment He seeks our hearts.
During this time, I’ve also been reflecting on how many different lies young women are told today—sometimes even teenage girls—especially when it comes to the truth about motherhood, the vocation of marriage, and the beauty of bringing life into the world. It honestly breaks my heart. Our society paints these sacred gifts with such distortion that many young women grow up afraid of something God created to be holy, fulfilling, and deeply meaningful. Yes, life can be difficult, and some women face painful or challenging circumstances. I understand that. But one person’s story or one generation’s wounds do not have to define the next. We can choose differently. We can live differently. And we can speak truth with conviction: that motherhood is a blessing, that it is a path to holiness, and that God’s design for family is good. Even though not everyone is Catholic or sees life through that lens, I pray that someday we may all be united as one body in Christ—brothers and sisters—recognizing that the most important purpose of our lives is to love, honor, and worship God in heaven.
When we don’t recognize these lies, they guide our actions, our fears, our behaviors, and our way of living. Below are some of the common lies many of us face. As you read, I invite you to reflect: Have I believed this? Has this influenced my life?
Lies We Hear During Single Life
You have to look perfect to be worthy of love.
You need to change your body so others will find you acceptable.
Marriage will ruin who you are or limit your potential.
Pregnancy and motherhood will destroy your life or your freedom.
True love is about appearances, not virtue.
You must have perfect finances before you can even consider marriage.
Lies We Hear Once Married (Before Children)
You shouldn’t have children; it will hold you back.
You won’t be a good wife.
Being submissive to your husband is weakness, not holiness.
Motherhood is too hard—avoid it at all costs.
Lies We Hear in Motherhood
You’re not good enough.
You aren’t serving God well.
You’re ruining your life.
You should be doing more.
You should be like “that” mother.
Your kids will resent you.
Whatever you choose—you’ll regret it.
And what makes this sad—and deeply human—is that even when we love the Lord, even when we want to serve Him with all our heart, these lies creep in like smoke, filling every room of our lives. They make it seem impossible to escape.
Why Does Society Push These Beliefs?
Because today’s culture, and the world is reign over by evil, that is the truth:
children are a burden, not pro-life
motherhood limits ‘success’, distorting the meaning of true holiness
your life must follow a specific worldly script, avoiding God’s Holy Word
success and safety must come before family, not trusting God
and anything that doesn’t center self is a threat. Be SELFISH.
But God offers what the world cannot: peace, clarity, and freedom. The world promises empowerment, yet so often delivers fear. God promises surrender—and delivers fullness of life.
God’s Way Is Not the World’s Way
The world says:
Build the perfect life first—then maybe think about a family.
But God says:
“Be fruitful.”
Not: “Build a house first.”
Not: “Achieve financial perfection.”
Not: “Wait until everything is safe and predictable.”
God never required perfection from us. He simply called us to trust Him. That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t be wise or responsible—of course we should be—but wisdom is not the same as fear. Wisdom prepares; fear paralyzes.
What We Can Be Certain Of
The one absolute truth we can hold onto is this:
When you give God your entire heart—your mind, your soul, your plans, your fears—He will protect you, guide you, and silence every lie that has tried to define you.
He will provide.
He will strengthen.
He will speak truth where the world has spoken confusion.
He will make your life fruitful in ways you never imagined.
A family isn’t meant to be built upon your perfection, but upon God’s providence. He is the one who sustains. He is the one who blesses. He is the one who frees us from the lies that try to steal the beauty of the life He intended for us.
Choose His voice over the world’s.
Choose His truth over fear.
Choose His way—because His way leads to life.
Ending Reflection
If God didn’t design you to give life, or if He wasn’t calling you to that vocation, it would be made clear. With discernment and true wisdom, we can have confidence that God holds us always—even when people around us misunderstand or oppose our desire to live simply and faithfully. You don’t need a house with multiple rooms to welcome a family. You don’t need a $10k salary each month to provide for your children. If you choose a life built around luxury, then yes, it might feel necessary—but is that truly what is needed?
The real question is NEEDS vs. WANTS. I won’t go too deep into that here, but the reality is that our culture has distorted the idea of what children “need,” especially compared to how the saints lived. Many saints were poor, yet they became holy.
So what is our goal?
To become holy—or to become “successful” according to the world’s definition? I know it’s controversial and many won’t agree, but it’s the truth: our priorities have shifted. There are real financial considerations when choosing to have one main source of income and building a family rooted in God’s design, especially in a world that pushes the opposite. I’m not saying everyone must do this. But I am saying that we have prioritized many things that are not of the Lord.
And it’s time—for us women, or anyone reading this—to pause and reflect: What am I prioritizing? Am I believing the lies told to me throughout my life, or am I choosing the truth? Am I trusting God to build His Kingdom through me, especially if my vocation is to be a parent and to raise children in the faith?
